Shurangama Sutra Session 13
1. I believe that Buddha has taught us in a simple way on the 3 dharmma inca (san fa ying) namely :
a. All matters are impermanent (zhu xing wu chang)
b. All dharmma isn’t any self (zhu fa wu ngwo)
c. Nirvana is the ultimate peace and just like this (niea pan ji jing)
2. The 3 dharmma inca are the underlying working principles in nature and everything in the universe. It is our swallow understanding on the universe and nature where we attached to form and substance that we can see, feel, hear, etc.
3. Due to poor understanding on :
a. impermanence, we attached to self, our opinions, things outside etc cause greed, hatred and delusion.
b. dependent origination (xhi er yin yuan), we thought there is a self, we attached to people, love ones and cause greed, hatred and delusion.
c. nirvana, we attached to name and forms and cause us cannot accept things or matters “as it is” then become conflict with each other and nature because they does not fit into what we can accept or want.
4. Take for example why I use to have conflict with my wife. It is because both of us have an “I”. The bigger the “I” the more serious our argument / conflict. Each of us are holding to our opinion and what we want but not acceptable to the other. Most of the time it is due to the future that we want. The future that we want is similar i.e. want a good and happy marriage and family life without financial worry when retired but not the same method to achieve it.
5. We do care for each other’s welfare but in our own way that is acceptable to oneself but not acceptable by the other. Each insist on our own method to achieve our common goal but the methods are not align hence conflict arose due to our deluded “I”
6. If one party compromise to the other’s method then he / she won’t be happy because there is still an unhappy deluded “I”. The leading party will be happy because follow my way and there is a happy deluded “I”. The challenge is how both of us can put down our deluded “I” and observe “who” is this deluded “I” in conflict. How to blend in 100% with the situation before can become one to see the correct situation, correct relationship and function correctly with a harmonious and happy resolution.
7. If we can resolve our conflict and live a happy and harmonious life together then enlightenment is not necessary. If we cannot resolve our conflict and ends up in separation then “I” need more repentance and strong practice.
8. Who am “I” ??? What am “I” ??? Who is in conflict ??? Really Don’t Know. Just no words and thinking in the mind and reflecting Shurangama lesson paper and car keys
Ching Meng Hapchang
【当看到“谁在矛盾中?”,多一步去看回自己的出发点是为了自己,为了太太,或是为了双方?只有放下己见才没有你我,才能回到3C。不一定每次都能做到,只是去尝试。】